Inspiration and Support Tips
Read these 12 Inspiration and Support Tips tips to make your life smarter, better, faster and wiser. Each tip is approved by our Editors and created by expert writers so great we call them Gurus. LifeTips is the place to go when you need to know about Single Women tips and hundreds of other topics.
Family Holidays Don't Need to Make you Lonely
The holidays can be kind of sad at times when you are single. I find myself feeling a bit left out when I am going to family gatherings and I don't have children or a family of my own. Being single is ok. There are advantages such as being able to come and go as I please and not having anyone to get ready but myself. When I Christmas shop I can get in and out of the mall pretty quick, or sit back with a great latte and watch everyone else still hustling along.
I seldom feel lonely because I am busy or just enjoying myself as I am. I don't think about what I don't have. I think about what I do have. If you get feeling the blues over family holidays, like Christmas, think about what you do have rather than what you think you wish you had.
It also helps to talk to the women who do have kids. Catch them at a moment when they are feeling overwhelmed and then be glad you are single! The grass really is always greener on the other side of the fence. Appreciate the grass you have!
Create Your Own Evening of Romance
Whether or not you're dating someone special you can enjoy an evening of romance. Cook a nice dinner, set the table with all the trimmings, even candles if you have them or pick some up. Use napkins, add a flowers and a centerpiece on the table, serve wine, just as if you were setting things up like a fancy, glamorous restaurant. If you aren't dating anyone do it all the same, just for yourself. Treat yourself to a romantic dinner. You're worth it!
Goal Setting
Name it! Decide with absolute conviction and authority. What do you want? Do you really want to complete a marathon? Ok then, set a time-table for achieving that goal! Register for the race and send your cash in NOW. Don`t wait, make the commitment. Also, discuss your intentions with others. Writing about and discussing your goal will help make it real, and therefore, ACHIEVABLE.
Emotional Emergencies
While you´re feeling confident, happy, or even content, make a list of five activities that give you pleasure. Store the list in a handy spot for easy retrieval. On those days when you´ve got a case of the low-down blues, choose one of those activities to help pick yourself back up. It´s sometimes hard to think of ways to help yourself if you wait until you´re already down, so pre-plan ways to nurture yourself!
Gratitude X 5
Before hitting the hay each night, list five things for which you are grateful. Buy a pretty notebook and use a special pen just for this purpose. On crabby days, you might have to list things like your warm flannel sheets, a job that pays the bills, Allie McBeal and that bag of Cheetos you just polished off. Life has taught us (hasn´t it girls?)that in order to move on to better things, it´s important to acknowledge the good things in our lives.
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Who´s your favorite most wonderful girlfriend in the whole wide world? YOU! Would you let your best friend sit around alone and in the dumps? NEVER! So, take yourself out for at least one two-hour date each week. Treat yourself to a chick-flick, a manicure/pedicure, a walk in the park, or even fly solo to a dinner party invite! Never say, just me. Say ME!
Volunteerism
Part of being a well-rounded single girl includes focusing on others´ as well as our own needs. Finding a volunteer program that fits in with your schedule and interests will help you "give back" to your community. Check with your local United Way, Women´s Shelter, local university, church, or other organizations such as Habitat for Humanity for more information.
You're Not Alone
If you´re single, don´t feel left out. The number of single people has dramatically increased recently, because unlike past generations when couples started together at the bottom, many modern professionals want to bring more to the marriage than love. They may require degrees, make some investments, or purchase a first home, all before getting hitched. People nowadays are more content with living alone.
Single Possibilities
Because of economics, education, and sheer numbers, single women "get addicted to the possibilities of lives, the idea that on any given day, you have the freedom to do this or that." Possibilities are what single women are given, and realities are what we turn it into!
Partying With Couples
If you are the one single person at a table full of happy, glowing couples, approach the party with the idea that attitude is everything. The best way to pull off holiday perkiness is to flirt outrageously. It doesn´t mean hitting on somebody´s husband; it means laughing and making lively conversation with everyone in the room- the hostess, the person across the table, their kid. You´ll look like a voluntarily solo social butterfly, and pretty soon you´ll have the entire table pining for their own single days.
The Grass is Greener...
Keep in touch with married and Mom friends. At times it really is nice to hear how the other shoe fits, how they would like to be single again, not sharing so much of their life, energy and time. Talking to women on the other side of the fence can help you appreciate what you do have at times when you feel you don't have much.
A Laugh a Day...
Stamp out stress and recharge your batteries by embracing laughter and humor! Take time to check on your favorite comic strip, tap into a joke-a-day website, or have a good laugh recounting silly times with a friend! Laughing helps keep you looking and feeling young...what more can a girl ask for?
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